The Vicious cycle of Expectations

After reading yesterday’s blog, my friend pointed out that we’ve become more “calculated” with love because we expect more from our relationships than people before us did. He says this is because the world expects more of us than it did from the people before us. This is the vicious cycle of expectations.

Globalization and the rapid transfer of information have made this world a very small place. The more we drive ourselves to be better educated, earn higher salaries, and multi-task additional things in our limited 24 hours, the further we come to expect the same from the people around us.

In this way, has jewelry become a reflection of who we are striving to become? Do we demand more perfect looking jewelry because we are reflecting our need to be more perfect? Market research would tend to show this trend.

What is your expectation from your jewelry? Did you ever think that you desire more “perfect” stone/jewelry because of the high expectations the world has from you?


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Calculated Love

Has our love become too “calculated”? Like the 4 “C” used to grade diamonds (color, clarity, cut and carat) do we also grade our mates? Whatever happened to falling in love at first sight? Taking a risk, working hard, and making things work? Now we fill out long profiles on dating sites where we describe our height, eye color, occupation, income, educational degree, religion and everything else that would make us a graded report for an interested party. Like a GIA report mapping out the exact locations of our flaws we have managed to do the same for people.

A few years ago people still bought diamonds and jewelry based on the emotional attachment they felt for it. If they liked a design, they didn’t ask about the 4 “C’s” of the diamond, they figured out how much they liked it and if they could afford it. Now guys come shopping for engagement rings with excel spread sheets calculating the best combination of color, clarity, cut, and carat that they can afford. These men compare GIA reports instead of designs, prices instead of years of jeweler experience, free shipping instead of lit showrooms. Where is the “Love” in jewelry now?

Jewelry like finding a mate has become too calculated. Flawed stones, like people are also beautiful. Take the time to look at a jewelry piece and give different people a try. Maybe the inclusion on the stone makes the stone more unusual. Maybe perfection is unnatural. Is it too much to love something for the way it is and how it makes you feel? Reports might tell you how to price something, but don’t let them tell you have to value pieces. Good luck on your search for perfection in this beautifully imperfect world!

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